Victims, Heros, Demons, Babies, and Personal Responsibility

"Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person's character lies in their own hands."
— Anne Frank

Good morning from Cabo San Lucas, Mexico. I'm sitting on a 3rd floor glassed balcony overlooking the marina; it's very active. There are multip yachts; the one directly across, I'm guessing is 500 million dollars, there are different levels of wealth.

Our plan left Denver at 9:00; we arrived at noon and took a private black car to our resort. We had a couple of Corona Light on our way; once we arrived, the VIP folks were waiting to check us in; we bought into this resort a few years ago; they treat us like royalty. We walked the property had another beer before unloading our gear, putting on shorts, and heading to Sammy Hagar's Cabo Wabo Restaurant.

We had some chips and salsa and a Waburritto and then made the walk back to our room. We took a little nap and then headed out for some Italian food a little wine, and we were in bed by 9:00, a lovely first day of vacation. Today we will secure some chairs overlooking the marina and watch the boats roll in and out this morning. Then, we will take a long walk, find some local street tacos, enjoy the local flair.

As I was waiting for the plane, I read a brief article about a young lady that was a mom and had experienced how unfair it is to be a woman in the business world. There are two ways you can view your life; you can view life as you are a victim, or you can view life as you are the hero. Let me explain; my wife is a powerful woman. But yes, she is a woman in a male-dominated sport called the insurance industry.

I have never once heard her, witnessed her, claim victimhood; she is also in hero mode. Does she get treated differently? Of course, you don't treat a child the same as an adult as you usually treat a male differently than a female. I'm not saying this is right or wrong; I'm speaking as human beings; we are wired to act differently in different situations. The next time you go to a funeral, behave as if it's a birthday party and see how others react. Do you feel me?

If you are not where you wanted to be at this point in your life, do not blame others, do not blame your parents, do not blame your skin color, blame yourself. The individual can choose to be a victim or a hero; it is up to each person to select. So stop whining, bitching, and moaning about your plight and begin making small changes that will allow you to achieve any level of success, happiness, or joy you dream. If you can dream it, you can do it, and I'm living proof.

It's not just my wife; I know other people who could have claimed victimhood but chose the hero path. For example, a few years ago, I met a young man named K.C. who grew up in a rougher part of Denver, but made it to play college basketball, then played professional basketball overseas before returning to Denver to start his career. He is now part of our management team, leads our Colorado operation, and has a path to unlimited wealth and freedom.

Anna is from Sweeden, she was married to a man living in New York, and he decided to move on and left her and her horse to fight for themselves. So after a quick reflection of her life, she relocated to Denver, met the man of her dreams, and is not living a fantastic existence. Anna could have claimed to be a victim, but her strength would not allow such thoughts and ideas; Anna is a hero.  

It's your choice; I'm not saying life is fair, it's not. We all have different demons that will visit, and you can choose to let the devil win, or you can beat the living shit out of the monster and move on with your life. Most heroes have killed their share of demons; we have war stories, ask us, and we can share. So today, look at your life and determine whether you are playing the victim or a hero?

Are you helping or hurting your community? Are you a beacon of light in an otherwise dark time of concern and blight? Every moment is an opportunity to show your true colors, stop being a baby and grow up; the person in the mirror is the one you should blame if you are not one hundred percent happy with your existence. Take personal responsibility, and the rest will work itself out.  

"Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person's character lies in their own hands."
— Anne Frank