Needing a Haircut on a Monday is Akin to Wanting a Sandwich from Chick-Fil-A on a Sunday

"We all die. The goal isn't to live forever; the goal is to create something that will."
— Chuck Palahniuk

Good morning, good afternoon, good evening, or whenever you find these words from an older fellow. It’s a Monday morning; we are clocking in at 67 and sunny; I hear it will get steamy hot this week; I’m ready; let’s get some sun on our bums.

We had a great Mother’s Day, I did not get to see my mother, but I will today.  We headed over to see our grandson and hang with our daughter and her in-laws. Bay was there, as were Carols and Val; we had a great meal made by my executive chef wife; on the way, we stopped at the grocery store, and I bought a puzzle, a deck of cards, and playdough. I’m 50% done with the mystery and will use the playdough to make baby Bo some fantastic relics from the first year of his birth.

We got home at about 7:30 and started a new show called The Flight Attendant, a campy drama about a woman with substance abuse issues, it began with a bang, and I think we will watch that this week. I’ve got a meeting in Westfield this morning; then I’m heading up to meet with a client and friend; I’ll see my parents and make my way back to Indy to meet my wife for dinner. That’s my day, what’s your plan?

We are about a third into the new year; how would you grade yourself? I’m going with a B+, but I’ve decided to push for an A. It is good to be reflective at times, look back and ask yourself, am I the best human being I can be? We are never perfect, but self-analysis might open the door for you to notice an area of your life that needs attention.  I shared a few times I have worked with others on becoming their best self. I use a diagnostic tool that helps you frame your life and the various key areas to set minor goals and have negligible impacts on each site.

Start with your relationship with your significant other. How is it? Rate it on the scale of your choice, be honest and then think of one little thing you can do to improve? One thing I do is I have a little book with the cover “Reasons I love you.” and daily, I opine a reason I love my wife. Sometimes they are serious, sometimes silly, but she gets reminded daily that I love her and WHY I love her. For years, she has joked, “ I say I love you, “why?” I now say, “there is a book in the kitchen.”

Next, up to your family, take a holistic approach. What do you deem family, blood, family? You pick it and again use the above to identify a bit of daily improvement you can make to maximize your engagement with your family.  Next up, do social; how are you faring within your community and your social circles, and how can you get better. Physical, what is your body telling you? Do you need to move more, eat more, or get more sleep?

How is your relationship with something bigger than yourself? What can you do to get closer, or if you don’t’ believe, what can you do to affirm that there is nothing else after you die, and all this is for maybe nothing? If there were no consequences, why bother following a rule. Questions for my non-believer friends. Finally, financially, how would you rate yourself? Do you have enough treasure? Do you want more? Do you want a second or third home? Do you want to travel more, do you want to live right fucking now? What can you do to improve your financial situation and achieve your dreams for yourself and your family?

It’s Monday, and I need a haircut; that’s like wanting a Chick Fil A sandwich on a Sunday. Woe is me, but I think I can make it a few more days before arriving in Beautiful Parker City for my quarterly Melissa Buis cut. I will be wearing a hat; my wig is out of control. First world problems, I am complaining about my hair and people being killed worldwide; say a prayer for our fellow humans; it does not have to be like this.

My wife is making her way downstairs; you know what’s next for my regular readers. I will get some morning sugar; she will feed the dog kibble, chicken, and green beans.  She will sit with me and have coffee. Eventually, one of us will hit the shower, the other follows suit, and then we get to work. I’m heading North, and she will be working in Indy; we have decided to divide and conquer today; not sure if I’m on the divide or defeat team, but she’ll be sure and let me know.

There you go, some thoughts, ideas, and the daily life of a man who is sold old he likes doing puzzles and reading books. I enjoy walking my dog and spending every possible minute with the woman of my dreams. I want to hang out with my family and friends, and I want to work hard to make it easier to buy things we don’t need.  I trust you are well and if not, use the above tool to help you reflect on your life and how you might make minor incremental improvements that will move you from where you are to who you want to be.

"We all die. The goal isn't to live forever; the goal is to create something that will."
— Chuck Palahniuk