I Am Happy, Tips and Tricks to help Navigate the Vortex of Evil

“Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”
— Dr. Seuss

It occurred to me the other day that I’m happy.  I’m rarely stressed; all three of my children are thriving.  I am in love with the most beautiful person in the world.  I have a successful company and get to do what I want to do daily.  I’ve been happy most of my life, looking to turn any negative into a gift or opportunity.  I live on top of a mountain; for God’s sake, I’m blessed beyond measure.

Do you know many people are not happy?  There are people very wealthy people that could buy anything they want but live in misery.  I know people that just sneak by financially, and they always have a smile; they have decided to live within their means and make the most of every day.

I’m convinced that we are in control of our happiness.  If you are angry, upset, and frustrated, do something about it.  Whatever is grinding your gears has a solution, and it is up to you to find a way to solve your mystery.  Why are you feeling those emotions?  What can you do to change your state?  Maybe move a little, make a call, get to bed a little earlier; you have many tools at your disposal to get your mind in a good spot.

I’m not a doctor; I’m a father, lover, writer, teacher, and small business owner.  And I like to share I’m happy.  Am I perfect? I am far from perfection.  Yesterday I got up and made some morning soup; I look at my calendar, noted my appointments, and took an early shower.  As the day was ramping up, I knew I had a ten o’clock meeting, and so when my wife said can we go for a quick walk, I said, “of course!”  About ten minutes into our walk, I thought, wait, “I have a 9:00 a.m. appointment!”  I was already too far from my home to get back; it was about 9:10, I had no cell service. 

We got done with our walk at 9:59, we made our 10:00, and after our 10:00 called my 9:00 and said, “Chet, I have no excuse, I went for a walk with my wife, and I apologize for missing our meeting.”  He laughed, Anson, I would have gone on a walk with my wife over meeting with you, so not a big deal.  We chatted for about 30 minutes; he was interested in a group I am helping get off the ground, we had a good chat, and he gave me grace. 

I didn’t sit in the mess I had made, rarely to I miss an appointment, but when I do, I ask for forgiveness and move on.  I don’t stew; I’m a human; humans make mistakes; let’s own them and move on.  I like to look forward, not back, the world is my oyster, and I will nibble on it the remaining days of my life.

We are closing on our mountain house refinance today at 9:00.  We will then head to the airport and jump on a plane to South Carolina.  We’re going to meet up with our family and watch our future son-in-law play center field for the Charleston River Dogs.  By 6:45 E.T. tonight, I’ll have a stadium hot dog and a beer in my hands, and I’ll be yelling for NICK!

Sweet Melissa will be watching our house while we are away; she and her dog Jack are staying with PVHT.  Jack and PVHT are friends; they play nonstop. It will be good for her to have a friend 24/7.  Our friend Kevin brought over some plants he had spring up in his garden.   We threw them on the deck and will try our green thumbs this summer.  Plants make us happy.

I got a photo in a group text last night.  I’m in a men’s group, 14 men, one female facilitator.  A few of us took pictures of where we were and with who we were spending our time.   One of our members was at Red Rocks with his daughter.  Another was with their mate on a camping trip, and another was with their new partner on a beach.  All were smiling; it’s not just me that is happy; I tend to run around with happy people.  

Happiness is a choice and although mental illness can be a bitch, get help.  Do something online, see a therapist,  change your diet, or move more.  There is no reason for you or anyone you know to be in misery; we live in the best time in the history of the world, many of us live in the freest country in the world.  You can do, say, anything you choose.

I tend to avoid angry people, hateful folks; I don’t have time for the negative energy they bring to the table.  I’m very good at escaping the evil vortex.  I make an excuse to walk away; I’m not going to fix an angry, hateful soul that’s on them; I’ll focus on my little light, I’ll make it shine, I look for others who are doing the same. 

I like to imagine that life is like a dark room, and many of us had the foresight to bring a flashlight, and many times I’m in the room with lights beaming.  But there are always those who have forgotten

their flashlights or maybe they are out of batteries in the room.  I will share my light with others, but I’m the guy that always makes sure I have my light, and my batteries are charged.  That is my responsibility. 

Just a reminder that you can choose your state.  You can choose to be happy, sad, angry, or fret about the coming minutes, days, and hours.  It’s on you; it’s up to you; find others like me that shoot happiness and joy from every orifice of our body.  We are here, here to help, but try and be your best self.  I’ll help those trying to help themselves but have no time for those blaming others for their plight or troubles.  You are responsible for yourself, oh the places you can go!

“Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”
— Dr. Seuss